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Nov 11, 20132 min read

How to Parent After a Crisis

Question We live in a part of New Jersey that was hit by Hurricane Sandy in October 2012. Our kids have seen friends and family lose...

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Gary Oliver

Jun 23, 20133 min read

Forgiving Spouse

Question My husband and I were both sexually active before we were married. In fact, I have a child from a previous relationship. When we...

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Gary Oliver

May 12, 20133 min read

Loving Discipline

Question My strong-willed 6-year-old is wearing me down. She has an opinion about everything and it is almost always the opposite of what...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 23, 20123 min read

Balancing Adolescent Freedom and Parent Involvement

Question My wife and I are increasingly concerned with the dangers facing our kids. How can we balance giving our kids freedom and...

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Gary Oliver

Oct 23, 20123 min read

Talking with Teens

Question As I was dropping off some clean laundry in my son’s room recently, I found a package of condoms on the floor. What’s the best...

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Gary Oliver

Jul 24, 20123 min read

Children’s Privacy

Question My 15-year-old daughter jealously guards her privacy and I want to respect that. At the same time, I feel the need to know what...

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Gary Oliver

Jun 23, 20123 min read

Child Perfectionism

Question My 7-year-old daughter is a perfectionist. She can't seem to have fun because she gets frustrated when things aren't like she...

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Gary Oliver

May 23, 20122 min read

Making an Impact in Your Teens Life

Question Since our two children have become teenagers our marriage and family life has become much more discouraging and difficult. ...

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Gary Oliver

Mar 23, 20123 min read

Unfinished Projects

Question My husband keeps starting projects on our home—then doesn’t finish them! Right now, it’s the kitchen. He tore it up—there’s no...

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Gary Oliver

Jan 12, 20122 min read

Being Open About Bullying

Question We have two children in middle-school and both have talked with us about their discomfort at the bulling they see almost every...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 11, 20112 min read

How To Approach Teens About Drugs

Question Over the past several months we’ve noticed some behavior and personality changes in our 15-year-old son and are concerned that...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 2, 20114 min read

7 Keys to Building Strong Families: Key #7b Conflict; Pathway to Intimacy

I don't even remember what the disagreement was about, but I do remember that it wasn't pleasant. My wife felt strongly about her...

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Gary Oliver

Oct 19, 20114 min read

7 Keys to Building Strong Families: Key #6 Nurturing Quality Communication

Over the past 30 years I've counseled over a thousand engaged couples. When I'm asked, “What's the most critical issue of marriage that...

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Gary Oliver

Jul 24, 20112 min read

Preparing Children for Success

Question It seems like every week we hear of some new “can’t fail” program to help our kids become smarter and better prepared to be...

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Gary Oliver

Jul 12, 20113 min read

Teenage Music

Question I don't approve of some of my teen's music. What's the best way to approach this — do I forbid it or ignore it or what? Answer...

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Gary Oliver

May 11, 20112 min read

Encouraging Your Family

Question My wife has helped me see that my desire for excellence often comes across as a need for perfection from everyone in our family....

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Gary Oliver

Mar 23, 20112 min read

Anger toward Spouse

Question My wife’s addiction to clutter is cheating us out of deeper intimacy in our relationship because I'm always angry and as a...

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Gary Oliver

Dec 31, 20104 min read

Caring Enough to Confront

Last night I called one of my closest friends to clarify the time for an upcoming meeting. While we were talking a part of me was aware...

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Gary Oliver

Dec 23, 20102 min read

Preparing Your Children For Adoption

Question My spouse and I are thinking about adopting a child. How can we begin to prepare our other children? Answer Over the past five...

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Gary Oliver

Oct 11, 20102 min read

Gaming Husband

Question My husband and I have been married for seven years. He has a group of six or seven friends who get together three times a week...

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