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Dec 1, 20202 min read

Miscommunication with Teens

Question We have two teenage children. While we have good relationships, we don’t communicate as well as we’d like. In fact, much of...

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Gary Oliver

Apr 2, 20202 min read

Healthy Conflict

Q: I usually avoid conflict but that hasn’t been working. Is there such a thing as “healthy conflict”? Conflict is a part of life. Even...

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Gary Oliver

Mar 10, 20202 min read

Trading Shifts

Q: How do I navigate covering shifts with my coworkers? A tricky social situation in which so many parts are at play, for this column...

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Gary Oliver

Feb 13, 20202 min read

Roommate issues

Q: How do I talk with my roommate about keeping our room/bathroom clean? (Asking for a friend) Ah, yes. The messy roommate who either...

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Gary Oliver

Jan 22, 20202 min read

Asking for help

Q: How can I ask for help from a classmate? I remember my freshman year. The start of spring semester was great. I enjoyed seeing friends...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 13, 20192 min read

Recognizing Sincerity

Q: How do you know when a friend is being sincere? In person conversation is a risk and exposes us in two ways. In her book Reclaiming...

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Gary Oliver

Sep 1, 20192 min read

ERI: Communication

Healthy communication is the one critical ingredient that defines a relationship. Communication is vital and essential because it is the...

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Gary Oliver

Sep 1, 20192 min read

ERI: Listening

Listening is the process of taking in information someone else is saying. This can be more difficult than we expect. When people, often...

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Gary Oliver

Dec 11, 20163 min read

Annoying Spouse

Question My husband has extremely annoying social behavior that tends to turn people off. I have tried to start friendships with other...

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Gary Oliver

May 23, 20162 min read

Household Chores

Question I wish my husband would realize there's more to cleaning than just picking up things. I feel bad complaining, and he gets mad...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 24, 20153 min read

Frequent Moves

Question My husband is wonderful, but unstable. We’ve moved 16 times during our 18 years of marriage. He says each move is to find a job...

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Gary Oliver

Jul 24, 20154 min read

Healthy Criticism

Question I often overhear my two daughters criticizing other people. I think they're picking it up from other kids at school, but I want...

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Gary Oliver

May 23, 20152 min read

Work Boundaries

Question My husband is a workaholic and has trouble setting work-related boundaries. He’s also sensitive to criticism. I know he’s deeply...

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Gary Oliver

Sep 23, 20143 min read

Conflicts in Parenting

Question My husband and I were married six years before we had children, and while we are different in many ways (he's way laid back; I'm...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 24, 20132 min read

Sharing Too Much

Question How much should a spouse express his or her true feelings and thoughts without fear of “rocking the boat?” I get weary of...

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Gary Oliver

Oct 31, 20123 min read

Creating a Family Mission Statement

Many families gain a sense of who they are from the opinions and perceptions of those around them. As a result, families can end up...

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Gary Oliver

Oct 23, 20123 min read

Talking with Teens

Question As I was dropping off some clean laundry in my son’s room recently, I found a package of condoms on the floor. What’s the best...

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Gary Oliver

Jun 23, 20112 min read

New Baby

Question We just had a baby. Now my husband says that I'm not interested in him anymore and that I love our child more than I love him....

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Gary Oliver

Mar 23, 20112 min read

Anger toward Spouse

Question My wife’s addiction to clutter is cheating us out of deeper intimacy in our relationship because I'm always angry and as a...

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Gary Oliver

Aug 12, 20102 min read

“Single” Spouse

Question My wife is a flight attendant and is gone a lot from home. The problem is when she is home, she goes into what I call “single...

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