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Healthy Conflict
Q: I usually avoid conflict but that hasn’t been working. Is there such a thing as “healthy conflict”? Conflict is a part of life. Even...
Gary Oliver
Apr 2, 20202 min read
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Roommate issues
Q: How do I talk with my roommate about keeping our room/bathroom clean? (Asking for a friend) Ah, yes. The messy roommate who either...
Gary Oliver
Feb 13, 20202 min read
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Going home for break
Q: How do I prepare myself to spend Christmas break with my parents? The scene is set; the house is decorated for Christmas just as it...
Gary Oliver
Dec 5, 20192 min read
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ERI: Conflict Engagement
Conflict engagement is the practice of addressing disagreements rather than avoiding them. Many people, often for very good reasons,...
Gary Oliver
Sep 1, 20192 min read
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Growing Through Conflict
What is the first memory that comes to mind when you hear the word conflict? How do you feel after experiencing a major conflict with...
Gary Oliver
Apr 1, 20194 min read
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Disagreeing Spouses
Question My wife and I have problems agreeing on many things. We seem to hold on strongly to our parent’s view. What can we do to start...
Gary Oliver
Mar 23, 20184 min read
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Different Interests
Question My wife and I have nothing in common. We’ve been married nine years, and I find myself wondering what it would be like if I were...
Gary Oliver
Dec 23, 20172 min read
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Chatty Husband
Question Whenever my husband talks to his family on the phone or in person, he tells them too many things. I have spoken to my husband...
Gary Oliver
Nov 24, 20142 min read
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Chatty Wife
Question My wife tends to talk too much about things I feel are our business. I’ve spoken to her about it, but she doesn’t think it’s a...
Gary Oliver
May 23, 20143 min read
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Healthy Spouse
Question My husband has had bad experiences with physicians and had cancer in the past. And now he won’t go in for check-ups. I'm afraid...
Gary Oliver
Apr 11, 20143 min read
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From Crisis to Confidence
The year of 1996 began with great expectations in the Oliver home. On Thanksgiving my mom and dad had moved from their Southern...
Gary Oliver
Feb 28, 20144 min read
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Forgiving Spouse
Question My husband and I were both sexually active before we were married. In fact, I have a child from a previous relationship. When we...
Gary Oliver
Jun 23, 20133 min read
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Unfinished Projects
Question My husband keeps starting projects on our home—then doesn’t finish them! Right now, it’s the kitchen. He tore it up—there’s no...
Gary Oliver
Mar 23, 20123 min read
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Parenting Spouse
Question Since we had a child three years ago, my wife has gone overboard on being a mother—to the point where she’s mothering me. She...
Gary Oliver
Feb 23, 20112 min read
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Caring Enough to Confront
Last night I called one of my closest friends to clarify the time for an upcoming meeting. While we were talking a part of me was aware...
Gary Oliver
Dec 31, 20104 min read
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Gaming Husband
Question My husband and I have been married for seven years. He has a group of six or seven friends who get together three times a week...
Gary Oliver
Oct 11, 20102 min read
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Vacationing
Question On vacation, I like to rise early and plan our day, while my husband would rather lie in bed half the day. By the time he...
Gary Oliver
May 23, 20102 min read
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