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Apr 2, 20202 min read

Healthy Conflict

Q: I usually avoid conflict but that hasn’t been working. Is there such a thing as “healthy conflict”? Conflict is a part of life. Even...

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Gary Oliver

Feb 13, 20202 min read

Roommate issues

Q: How do I talk with my roommate about keeping our room/bathroom clean? (Asking for a friend) Ah, yes. The messy roommate who either...

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Gary Oliver

Dec 5, 20192 min read

Going home for break

Q: How do I prepare myself to spend Christmas break with my parents? The scene is set; the house is decorated for Christmas just as it...

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Gary Oliver

Sep 1, 20192 min read

ERI: Conflict Engagement

Conflict engagement is the practice of addressing disagreements rather than avoiding them. Many people, often for very good reasons,...

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Gary Oliver

Apr 1, 20194 min read

Growing Through Conflict

What is the first memory that comes to mind when you hear the word conflict? How do you feel after experiencing a major conflict with...

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Gary Oliver

Mar 23, 20184 min read

Disagreeing Spouses

Question My wife and I have problems agreeing on many things. We seem to hold on strongly to our parent’s view. What can we do to start...

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Gary Oliver

Dec 23, 20172 min read

Different Interests

Question My wife and I have nothing in common. We’ve been married nine years, and I find myself wondering what it would be like if I were...

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Gary Oliver

Nov 24, 20142 min read

Chatty Husband

Question Whenever my husband talks to his family on the phone or in person, he tells them too many things. I have spoken to my husband...

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Gary Oliver

May 23, 20143 min read

Chatty Wife

Question My wife tends to talk too much about things I feel are our business. I’ve spoken to her about it, but she doesn’t think it’s a...

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Gary Oliver

Apr 11, 20143 min read

Healthy Spouse

Question My husband has had bad experiences with physicians and had cancer in the past. And now he won’t go in for check-ups. I'm afraid...

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Gary Oliver

Feb 28, 20144 min read

From Crisis to Confidence

The year of 1996 began with great expectations in the Oliver home. On Thanksgiving my mom and dad had moved from their Southern...

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Gary Oliver

Jun 23, 20133 min read

Forgiving Spouse

Question My husband and I were both sexually active before we were married. In fact, I have a child from a previous relationship. When we...

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Gary Oliver

Mar 23, 20123 min read

Unfinished Projects

Question My husband keeps starting projects on our home—then doesn’t finish them! Right now, it’s the kitchen. He tore it up—there’s no...

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Gary Oliver

Feb 23, 20112 min read

Parenting Spouse

Question Since we had a child three years ago, my wife has gone overboard on being a mother—to the point where she’s mothering me. She...

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Gary Oliver

Dec 31, 20104 min read

Caring Enough to Confront

Last night I called one of my closest friends to clarify the time for an upcoming meeting. While we were talking a part of me was aware...

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Gary Oliver

Oct 11, 20102 min read

Gaming Husband

Question My husband and I have been married for seven years. He has a group of six or seven friends who get together three times a week...

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Gary Oliver

May 23, 20102 min read

Vacationing

Question On vacation, I like to rise early and plan our day, while my husband would rather lie in bed half the day. By the time he...

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